Research has shown that the vast majority of causes of premature ejaculation are psychological in nature. This is good news for most men, as it means that identifying the problem and dealing with it won’t include medicine, probing procedures or an operation.
With many people, their psychological issues originate in childhood, which is quite common. Therapists and researchers long ago realized that the events of our childhood: school yard fights, failures in class, disappointments with parents, and other events are very important in the construction of our psyche. For men, they typically discover sexual self-gratification (masturbation) when they hit puberty. In American society, we tend to frown on this act; many religions openly condemn it. So, boys learn to do it as quickly as possible, to avoid detection, and this can carry over to adulthood. When they begin to engage in sex with a partner, their body is used to climaxing quickly, and thus they do it without thinking.
A professor and doctor at the University of Minnesota Medical School have been leading the path with his research and development of a new drug designed to help men with PE. The name of the new drug is Dapoxetine or Priligy is a serotonin drug to increase the levels in the body for a short-half life. This means the drug is effective within about one hour of taking the pill and leaves the body unlike other serotonin reuptake inhibitors referred to as SSRIs.
Also, many religions condemn premarital sex, homosexuality, and any acts they consider deviant. So, if you want to engage in sex before marriage, if you’re gay, or if you have a fetish of some sort, your sexual performance can be impaired. All of these issues can impact on your mind, and thus lead to either impotence or premature ejaculation. You can have tremendous feelings of guilt, and you may not even be aware of it. This is where talking to a therapist can help with how to stop premature ejaculation. If you can come to realize that the sermons you listened to as a child in church or the scoldings you got from your parents are causing your premature ejaculation, you can be halfway to end your premature ejaculation.
Then there are issues as an adult. These days, the economy is very fragile, the national debt is rising, and people are worried about retirement and health care. Depending on your age, you may have children, and you can be worried about them going off to college. At work, you can have stress due to the company downsizing, a loss of pay, your taxes, and struggles with co-workers and/or superiors. All of these stresses can lead to premature ejaculation.
There are also psychological issues connected with intercourse. Do you have sex the same way every time? The same time of day, the same day of the week? If so, you can simply be bored with it, and this can affect how you think about sex. For that matter, you can also be feeling guilty about sex; even sex within a committed relationship, even marriage! With boredom, just changing something as small as your position can be one of the techniques to prevent premature ejaculation. In terms of guilt, you have to go back to (again) your childhood. How was sex presented to you by your parents, your school, and your church? In some cases, one (or more) of those influences can be very negative. Again, some extreme religions actually preach that sex is wrong and should only be preformed to have children. When you’re fighting against psychological “baggage” like that, preventing premature ejaculation can be very difficult.
